FAQ
Frequently Asked Questions
What is sexuality coaching?#
Sexuality coaching, as I practice it, is a collaborative, guided process that helps you explore your sexuality, whether that means addressing specific concerns (like low desire, difficulty with arousal, confusion around identity), or opening up space for deeper reconnection, clarity, or growth.
Sexuality coaching isn’t focused on diagnosis or pathology. It's also not performance-based sex advice or about teaching you how to “do it right.” My work is holistic, trauma-informed, and relational. We can explore not just what’s happening (or not happening) sexually, but how that connects to your nervous system, your relationships, your history, your creativity, and your sense of self. I work from the knowing that sexuality isn’t separate from the rest of your life but one of the most direct expressions of who you are.
Is this like talk therapy?#
There are some similarities and some differences. Many clients find coaching feels more collaborative and less clinical than some forms of traditional therapy. Sessions may feel more conversational, intuitive, or spacious. My past experience in bodywork and sex work also allow me to bring a grounded and embodied perspective to this work that’s especially free of judgment or pathology.
It also doesn't have to be either/or – if you’re already in therapy, sexuality coaching can be a supportive complement. I often meet clients who find that their current therapists aren’t able to hold or address the full depth of their sexual concerns. Sexuality coaching can create room for these conversations while building on the healing and self-understanding that therapy provides.
Who do you work with?#
Over the years I’ve come to specialize in working with:
- People in midlife or other life transitions – often a time of redefining relationships, desire, and identity
- Parents navigating identity shifts, burnout, or the effects of pregnancy, birth, and the postpartum period on their sexual lives
- People who are just starting to question their sexual orientation, gender identity, neurotype, kinks, or other identities
- Neurodivergent or highly sensitive people navigating intimacy and unmasking
- Queer, trans, and non-binary people exploring their sexual narratives
- Survivors of sexual trauma or repression seeking reconnection with pleasure
- Artists, writers, and creatives who feel blocked sexually and/or creatively, and sense that these parts of life are connected
- People who feel sexually shut down or numb but may not know why
Do you work with people who’ve experienced trauma?#
Yes, and I approach all my work as inherently trauma-informed, whether or not a client names trauma explicitly. Many of the people I work with are survivors of childhood, sexual, religious, or relational trauma. We move at your pace, using language and tools that centre your nervous system, not override it. Consent, pacing, and attunement are foundational to how I work.
You don’t have to share details of your story unless/until you feel safe and ready.
Do you work with men/women/couples/people of my gender identity?#
I work with individuals of all genders and orientations, and I occasionally work with couples or constellations of partners when it feels like a good fit. That said, my approach may feel different from more traditional “men’s” or “women’s” sexuality work, because I don’t divide erotic experience by gender. I see it as something we each experience in unique, valid, and deeply personal ways. That just means that I don't come into our sessions with any assumptions about how your gender and your sexuality interact. I have experience working with cis, non-binary, and trans clients, and I invite you to tell me about how your gender and sexuality operate for you, in your own life and in your own body.
I’m neurodivergent, will this work for me?#
Many of my clients are neurodivergent (autistic and/or ADHD, formally diagnosed or self-identified.). They often tell me that this space is one of the first where they don’t feel pressure to mask, translate, or perform. I also often find myself working with parents of neurodivergent kids and people with neurodivergent partners. I bring both education and lived experience with neurodivergence to this work, and I offer tailored pacing, clear expectations, and flexibility in how sessions unfold. Your unique nervous system is not a problem to fix here – it’s a wisdom to listen to.
I think I’m starting to question my sexuality/gender/identity. Can you help?#
Many of my clients are in that exact place: starting to wonder if they’re not as straight, cis, neurotypical, vanilla, or “fine” as they’ve always believed. Sometimes those realizations come with clarity. More often, they come with confusion, grief, excitement, fear, and a lot of “what now?” You don’t need to have it figured out. This is a space for exploring at your own pace. You won’t be rushed, labeled, or pathologized.
What kinds of things do people bring to coaching?#
Some common themes people bring to sexuality coaching:
- “I feel disconnected from my sexuality – can I get it back?”
- “I think I may be queer / asexual / into kink (etc.), but I’m not sure.”
- “I want sex, but I’m afraid or overwhelmed by it.”
- “I love my partner, but something’s missing sexually.”
- “I’ve been performing my whole life. I want to know what’s real.”
- “I’m exhausted (by caregiving, expectations, life in general) and I want to feel like myself again.”
Do you offer in-person sessions?#
At this time, all coaching sessions are virtual only.
What if I feel shame or embarrassment?#
Many people feel nervous, ashamed, or uncertain when they first reach out. But rest assured that you won’t be judged or pathologized here. You’ll be met with warmth, compassion, and genuine curiosity. There’s nothing too weird, too broken, or too confusing to bring, and I often receive the feedback that people are surprised by how at ease they feel talking with me, even about things they’ve previously been afraid to open up about.
How long does sexuality coaching take?#
There's no one-size-fits-all answer to that, as so much depends on your goals and the complexity of what you're bringing to our work together. That said, this isn't a quick fix kind of modality, and I find that longer term work leads to the kinds of lasting results most people are looking for. I usually suggest committing to weekly or bi-weekly sessions for a few months to start. We can chat about what's accessible and realistic for you in our introductory call.
What are session fees? How long are sessions?#
I offer coaching at a sliding scale of $140-$240 for each 75 minute virtual session. Fees are payable by e-transfer at the end of our session.
How does a sliding scale work?#
A sliding scale is a tool of economic justice, and I use it to make this work as accessible as possible to people at different levels of access to resources. Each client determines where they fall on the sliding scale based on their financial situation. If you are of greater financial means, please consider paying at the higher end of the scale so that those of less privilege can access the lower-tier pricing. For guidance on where you fall on the sliding scale, please see this infographic.
Are you available evenings or weekends?#
Yes, I do have some availability for weekend and evening (eastern standard time) appointments. Please contact me to inquire about my current availability.
Do you accept insurance?#
Sorry, no. If your plan offers a Healthcare Spending Account (HSA), check with your provider to see if you can be reimbursed for all or part of coaching session fees.
What's your cancellation policy?#
I appreciate the courtesy of 24 hours notice if you need to cancel or reschedule your session. Cancellations made with less than 24 hours notice are charged 50% of your usual session fee. I understand that sometimes life happens, and the first-time late cancellation fee is always waived. However if late cancellations or no-shows become a pattern, I may need to end our work together.
Where are you located?#
I’m based in Ontario, Canada, but I see clients virtually all over the world. Please contact me to see if my current availability can accommodate your time zone.
How do I book a session?#
Send me an email to set up a free introductory consultation call. During this call, we'll chat about what you're seeking and explore whether I'm the right provider to suit your current needs.
