Frequently Asked Questions
What is sexuality coaching?#
Sexuality coaching, as I practice it, is a collaborative, guided process that helps you explore your sexuality, whether that means addressing specific concerns (like low desire, difficulty with arousal, confusion around identity), or opening up space for deeper reconnection, clarity, or growth.
Sexuality coaching isn’t focused on diagnosis or pathology. It's also not performance-based sex advice or about teaching you how to “do it right.” My work is holistic, trauma-informed, and relational. We can explore not just what’s happening (or not happening) sexually, but how that connects to your nervous system, your relationships, your history, your creativity, and your sense of self.
Is this like talk therapy?#
There are some similarities and some differences. Some people find coaching feels more collaborative and less clinical than some forms of traditional therapy. Sessions may feel more conversational, intuitive, or spacious. My past experience in bodywork and sex work also allows me to bring a grounded and embodied perspective to this work that’s especially free of judgment or pathology, while also being very rooted in somatic (body) awareness.
It also doesn't have to be either/or – if you’re already in therapy, sexuality coaching can be a supportive complement. I sometimes meet folks who find that their current therapist isn't able to hold or address the full depth of their sexual concerns. Seeking out sexuality coaching can be a way to create room for these conversations while building on the healing and self-understanding that therapy provides.
Who do you work with?#
Over the years, I’ve come to specialize in working with people who can be described in one or several of the following ways:
- People in or approaching midlife, often a time of shifting identity, hormones, desire, and relationships
- Parents navigating identity shifts, burnout, or the effects of pregnancy, birth, and the postpartum period on their sexual lives
- Neurodivergent or highly sensitive people navigating intimacy and unmasking
- Queer, trans, non-binary, and questioning people exploring their sexual narratives
- Survivors of sexual trauma or repression seeking reconnection with pleasure
- Artists, writers, and creatives who feel blocked sexually and/or creatively and sense that these parts of life are connected
- People who feel sexually shut down or numb but may not know why
Is this coaching trauma-informed?#
Yes, I approach all sessions, whether trauma is explicitly named or not, with a consciousness informed by my studies and training in trauma healing and an awareness of the effects it can have in the body and on our decisions, health, and desire.
Many of the people I work with are survivors of childhood, sexual, religious, or relational trauma. We move at your pace, using language and tools that centre your nervous system, not override it. Consent, pacing, and attunement are foundational to how I work.
You don’t have to share details of your story unless/until you feel safe and ready.
Do you work with men/women/couples/people of my gender identity?#
I work with individuals of all genders and orientations, and I occasionally work with couples or constellations of partners when it feels like a good fit. My understanding of gender is that it's something we each experience in unique, valid, and deeply personal ways. That just means that I don't come into our sessions with assumptions about how your gender and your sexuality interact. I have experience working with cis, non-binary, trans, and genderfluid clients, and I invite you to tell me about how your gender and sexuality operate for you, in your own life and in your own body.
I’m neurodivergent, will this work for me?#
Many of my clients are neurodivergent (autistic, ADHD, OCD, etc., either formally diagnosed or self-identified). I also often find myself working with parents of neurodivergent kids and people with neurodivergent partners. I bring both education and lived experience with neurodivergence to this work, and I offer tailored pacing, clear expectations, and flexibility in how sessions unfold. Your unique nervous system is not a problem to fix here – it’s a wisdom to listen to.
What kinds of things do people bring to coaching?#
Some common themes people bring to sexuality coaching are:
- “I feel disconnected from my sexuality – can I get it back?”
- “I want sex, but I’m afraid or overwhelmed by it.”
- “I love my partner, but something’s missing sexually.”
- “I’ve been performing my whole life. I want to know what’s real.”
- “I’m exhausted (by caregiving, expectations, life in general) and I want to feel like myself again.”
- “I want to overcome shame about my sexuality, my body, or my desires so I can enjoy pleasure more.”
What if I feel shame or embarrassment?#
Many people feel nervousness, shame, or uncertainty when they first reach out. I often receive the feedback that people are surprised by how at ease they feel talking with me, even about things they’ve previously been afraid to open up about.
Do you offer in-person sessions?#
At this time, all coaching sessions are virtual only.
How long does sexuality coaching take?#
There's no one-size-fits-all answer, as so much depends on your goals and the complexity of what you're bringing to our work together. That said, this isn't a quick fix kind of modality, and I find that longer term work leads to the kinds of lasting results most people are looking for. I usually suggest committing to weekly or bi-weekly sessions for a few months to start. We can chat about what's accessible and realistic for you in our introductory call.
How do I book a session?#
Send me an email to set up a free introductory consultation call. During this call, we'll chat about what you're seeking and explore whether I'm the right provider to suit your current needs.
"My entire life has been full of abuse, disappointment and hurt. Part of the healing for me has been to reconnect intimate touch with pleasure instead of hurt, and realize it is okay to be selfish and self aware. Robyn is intuitive, caring, and has quickly become an integral part of my personal health care and plan for my wellbeing."
— T.